Tuesday, September 22, 2009
women's liberation movement began in the 20th century. Actually, the
women's liberation movement was not begun by women but was revealed by God
to a man in the seventh century by the name of Muhammad (peace be upon
him), who is known as the last Prophet of Islam. The Qur'an and the
Traditions of the Prophet (Hadith or Sunnah) are the sources from which
every Muslim woman derives her rights and duties.
Thursday, September 17, 2009
Balancing Family and Islamic Work
Monday, September 14, 2009
Anyone, be he of one’s own religion or of any other religious tradition, whether he belongs to one community or another; whether he belongs to friendly group or enemy group, in all cases is worthy of respect. According to the teachings of Islam human beings are to be respected, despite their differences. Even where antagonism is displayed, we have to adopt the way of avoidance of conflict and continue to show respectful behavior. In the eyes of Islam all human beings are equal and deserve our respect.
Saturday, September 12, 2009
The Need for Sport
Friday, September 11, 2009
We take a break from our jobs for almost everything in life. Why not this time to focus on worshiping and thanking our Creator.
If this is not possible at least take a few days off if you can.
2. Do I'tikaf
It was a practice of the Prophet
to spend the last ten days and nights of Ramadan in the masjid for I'tikaf.
Those in I'tikaf stay in the masjid all this time, performing various forms of zikr (the remembrance of Allah), like doing extra Salat, recitation and study of the Quran."
Thursday, September 10, 2009
There are five questions that, for the sake of world peace, wives should really never ask their husbands. They should know better. The sad truth however, is that they DO ask these questions, frequently and with quite an innocent attitude, as if the questions just popped into their heads and do not carry the emotional charge of cluster bombs. So it is extremely important that we husbands should be prepared to answer these questions correctly, so that we do not find ourselves on the wrong ends of blunt instruments.
"Because I need to" she said.
"I don't understand," he said.
His mother just hugged him and said, "And you never will."
Later the little boy asked his father, "Why does mother seem to cry for no reason?"
"All women cry for no reason," his dad answered carelessly.
The little boy, still wondering why women cry, finally asked the old wise shaikh (scholar). "He surely knows the answer", he thought.
"Ya Shaikh! Why do women cry so easily?"
The Shaikh answered:
"When Allah made the woman she had to be special. He made her shoulders strong enough to carry the weight of the world, yet gentle enough to give comfort.
He gave an inner strength to endure both childbirth and the rejection that many times comes from her children.
He gave her a toughness that allows her to keep going when everyone else gives up, and take care of her family through sickness and fatigue without complaining.
He gave her the sensitivity to love her children under any and all circumstances, even when her child hurts her badly.
He gave her strength to carry her husband through his faults and fashioned her from his rib to protect his heart. He gave her wisdom to know that a good husband never hurts his wife, but sometimes tests her strengths and her resolve to stand beside him unfalteringly.
And lastly, He gave her a tear. This is hers and only hers exclusively to use whenever she needs it. She needs no reason, no explanation, its hers.
You see my son, the beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the beauty of her face, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman must be seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart - the place where love resides."
Wednesday, September 9, 2009
Head-to-toe relief for the growing pains of pregnancy
Before you became pregnant, you probably thought that you had an understanding with your body: You were good to it, it was good to you. Now that you’re expecting, however, you find that all bets are off. Your little bundle of joy is calling the shots, and your body is straining to accommodate. Feet are swelling, ligaments are stretching, veins are bulging, and hormones are raging. Simply put, you need help.
LITTLE CURES FOR BIG DISCOMFORTS
As your skin stretches, it can become dry and itchy.
- Relief: Slather on moisturizer or cocoa butter after bathing, and avoid harsh soaps, which remove your skin’s natural oils.
Your growing uterus presses on your bladder.
- Relief: By four months, the uterus moves up, relieving the pressure. Meanwhile, keep drinking liquids and don’t wait to urinate — it can lead to a urinary tract infection.
You may retain some fluid — especially around your ankles and feet.
- Relief: Put your feet up, switch standing and sitting positions often, and don’t cross your legs. If your rings get tight, put them on a chain and wear them as a necklace.
Valves that propel blood start to soften, causing the blood to pool and form painful bulges.
- Relief: Avoid crossing your legs, standing in one position for too long, or wearing anything that cuts off circulation (like knee-high stockings). Support hose may also help soothe the aches.
Hormonal havoc and the energy it takes to create a baby sap your strength.
- Relief: Rest often and avoid sugar and caffeine.
Sluggish circulation causes painful knots.
- Relief: Gentle massage or stretching (with toes flexed, not pointed) can help relax the muscle. Try stretching your legs before bedtime.
Your ligaments stretch to support the growing weight of your womb, causing sharp pains from the top of your uterus down to your pubic bone.
- Relief: Get off your feet, and support your belly with a pillow when you’re lying on your side. Warm baths are soothing too.
These swollen rectal veins result from hard-to-pass bowel movements.
- Relief: Try ice packs, sitz baths, or witch hazel compresses, and ask your doctor about a stool softener or suppositories.
Your shifting center of gravity and the increased natural curvature of your spine strain your back.
- Relief: Stand up straight, and be careful lifting. While sitting, elevate your feet, and use a pillow for the small of your back.
INCREASED VAGINAL DISCHARGE
A clear to yellowish secretion, known as leukorrhea, helps flush bacteria from your vagina.
- Relief: Wear a light panty shield in your underwear to help you feel fresher, but don’t douche or wear tampons.
Pregnancy hormones slow some bodily functions, resulting in constipation, indigestion, bloating, and gas.
- Relief: Eat a diet high in fiber (whole grains, raw fruits and vegetables), drink plenty of liquids, and try to take a walk every day.
So-called morning sickness — nausea that ranges from mild queasiness to frequent vomiting — can last all day.
- Relief: Eat small, frequent meals high in protein and carbohydrates, and keep a few crackers by your bed to help settle your stomach before you get up in the morning.
Your uterus presses on your stomach, causing acids to back up.
- Relief: Even when you’re ravenous, eat slowly. Avoid greasy foods and stay upright after meals. Also, try eating yogurt or chewable calcium tablets.
As your breasts rev up for breastfeeding, they may be slightly swollen and feel sensitive or painful to the touch.
- Relief: Buy a comfortable and supportive bra (without underwire is best).
The sudden surge of hormones may cause migraines.
- Relief: Try hot and cold compresses, temple massage, and fresh air. Acetaminophen is considered safe for pregnant women, but talk to your doctor before taking any drugs.
High levels of estrogen and progesterone increase blood flow to the mucous membranes, causing them to soften and swell. Your sinuses may feel extremely dry.
- Relief: Use a humidifier to loosen congestion, and lubricate the inside of your nose with a little petroleum jelly.
IN THE MOOD FOR LOVE — OR NOT
Early in pregnancy, levels of estrogen and progesterone soar — increasing blood flow and sensitivity in the breasts, vagina, labia, and clitoris — which may turn you into a sexual dynamo. On the other hand, when you’re dealing with nausea, fatigue, and moodiness, you may find sex as appealing as your annual exam. The key for you and your partner is to expect fluctuations in desire, so that when it wanes, you can stay intimate in other ways — by holding hands, snuggling, or giving each other massages.
By the way, there’s no reason to fear that you’ll harm the baby during intercourse. She’s well-protected in her amniotic bubble, and unless you’re at risk for miscarriage or preterm labor (in which case, you should seek your doctor’s advice), sex generally poses no danger whatsoever.
THE EMOTIONAL ROLLER COASTER
Consider yourself hormonally challenged: During pregnancy, estrogen can climb to 60 times its normal level. In general, higher levels of both progesterone and estrogen can make you feel good, but sometimes the huge fluctuations can also puncture the euphoria. In fact, a wide range of emotional states is perfectly normal — quiet and withdrawn, scared, anxious, elated and excited, easily angered or tearful, ambivalent, worried, and happy. But you can try to stay on an even keel with enough rest, exercise, and communication with your partner.
On the other hand, if your symptoms include prolonged weepiness, anxiety, sleeplessness, guilt, anger, pessimism, or detachment, talk to a professional about pregnancy-related depression. This potentially serious condition can last anywhere from weeks to months, and it can be treated safely with therapy and medicine. Women who experience severe depression during pregnancy are also at high risk of postpartum depression, so this is one condition you don’t want to wait out.
WHEN WOES ARE SERIOUS
With everything your body’s going through during pregnancy, it can be tough to tell which changes are simply uncomfortable and which are dangerous. Don’t hesitate to call your doctor when in doubt. And be sure to talk to her if you experience any of the following symptoms:
A possible sign of anemia, or iron deficiency in the blood.
PERSISTENT VOMITING OR DIARRHEA OR A HIGH FEVER LASTING MORE THAN 24 HOURS
Any of these conditions can cause dehydration, which in turn can damage the baby’s developing organs.
A possible sign of a miscarriage or of placenta previa.
CONSTANT ABDOMINAL PAIN OR CRAMPING
Symptoms that may indicate an ectopic pregnancy or pending miscarriage.
SEVERE HEADACHES OR SUDDEN, EXCESSIVE SWELLING OF THE HANDS AND FACE
Possible signs of pregnancy-induced hypertension, and preeclampsia.
This is one time when everyone will let you enjoy a much-deserved break. Take advantage!
- Light some candles and soak in the tub.
- Get your hair washed at a salon.
- Make a "baby tape" of your favorite music.
- Rent a tear-jerker and cry your eyes out.
- Buy yourself flowers.
- Get a pedicure even if you can’t see your feet anymore.
Safety with Young Children
It requires a lot of patience to take care of an active young child. Children are naturally curious; babies commonly put things in their mouths to test whether or not they are good to eat, and toddlers may put small objects into their nose or ears! Everyone in the family should by aware of safety rules. Every home with an infant or young child should be childproofed, which means that all dangerous items should be out of the child's reach.
Here are some good points to remember:
¥ Children should not be left in the car, or at home alone until they are old enough to take care of themselves in an emergency. Babies and young children must be supervised at all times. Even one-day-old babies have been known to roll themselves off tables. It only takes a few seconds for a disaster to happen!
¥ Keep medicines and poisons safely locked away out of the reach of young children. Special stickers can be bought from the chemist to put on bottles of medicine and poisons. They let children know with pictures and symbols that what is inside the bottle is not good to eat or drink. Cleaning liquids, paints, powders and dangerous chemicals should not be stored inside old food or drink containers.
¥ Keep the number of the doctor, hospital and emergency services near the telephone in case of a serious accident. Every home should have basic first aid supplies on hand; milk, charcoal tablets and syrup of ipecac are especially important since they may be needed at a moment's notice in order to treat accidental poisoning. Keep in mind that the doctor will need to know exactly what the child has swallowed in the case of poisoning, so that he can quickly decide on the best treatment.
¥ Try to learn a few basic rules of first aid - it might save the life of someone you love! Scouting groups, the International Red Cross and other organizations hold special first aid courses for young people where you can learn how to help someone who is choking, drowning, bleeding, or in a dangerous situation.
¥ Electrical sockets and appliances must be protected. Special plugs can be bought for insertion into main sockets so that small children will not be able to stick things into them and electrocute themselves. Never use electrical appliances such a hairdryers and radios where they could fall into the water or someone might splash water on them, such as in the bathroom, next to the baby's bath or near a swimming pool!
¥ Keep sharp and dangerous objects out of children's reach. Small toys or game parts should not be left where babies can pick them up and swallow or choke on them.
¥ If you must baby-sit or watch a younger brother or sister, use your common sense and keep your mind on what you are doing. Toddlers have drowned in the bath in just a few minutes while their older brother or sister left the bathroom to get something, and became distracted by something exciting on TV! Always test the temperature of the bath water with your elbow or inner arm before putting a baby into it; it should feel nice and warm.
DON'T TAKE RISKS; IT IS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY.
"We have enjoined on man kindness to his parents: In pain did his mother bear him, and in pain did she give him birth. The carrying of the (child) to his weaning is (a period of) thirty months. At length, when he reach the age of full strength and attains forty years, he says, 'O my Lord! Grant me that I may be grateful for Thy favor which thou hast bestowed upon me, and upon both my parents....'"
Holy Quran 46:15
Family Life Question: "Breast feeding our new baby will be a new experience for me, and I'm concerned about providing an adequate amount of milk. What are some helpful things to know?"
Dear New Mother:
It is from the breast that "the milk of human kindness" literally flows. Human milk contains thousands of nutrients, some of which are not found anywhere else in nature. It is very specific in its design for the optimum growth and development of the human infant.
Breast feeding is a part of the continuation of life, that is evolving in the manner Allah has ordained. Breast feeding is natural. We have abandoned many of the beautiful natural things that Allah has given to us that would assure the sanctity of human life. We need guidance to adhere to the more natural ways of life that are in accordance with Allah's universal order. "And there is no creature on earth but that upon Allah is its provision, and He knows its place of dwelling and place of storage. All is in a cleaner register." (Quran 11:6)
Not only are the physical qualities of breast milk best, the emotional and spiritual bonding that takes place between mother and child is immeasurably vital to life. Breast feeding encourages bonding for the entire family. Allah has given the woman the role of nurturer of life, the role of providing the warmth, comfort, security and compassion that sets life on the best course.
There are many herbal remedies for breast feeding mothers. More than 30 herbs are considered to promote healthy milk producing. Nutritionists advise the widely know herb, fenugreek. Dr. Mohammed El-Shatet of Fouad University in Cairo, Egypt, reports in Mothering magazine (July-Sept. 1988) that fenugreek could increase breast milk production by as much as 900 percent. Mothers who had experienced their babies failing to gain weight found that infants thrived when they began drinking fenugreek tea. Even adoptive mothers have been able to produce milk for their babies after drinking this tea regularly. (3)
The effectiveness of an herbal remedy is dependent upon its preparation. Healing qualities are increased when herbs are grown in a kitchen garden with loving care and without pesticides and herbicides. There are natural pros and cons to using herbs while breast feeding: herbs may flavor milk; some herbs that affect the infant and are as potent as pharmaceutical products; herbal remedies may alter the composition of milk; herbs can influence the quantity of milk. When there is any room for concern, consult a nutritionist and always consult your caring physician.
Breast feeding is one way that Allah has given us as mothers to nurture life and through it, Allah wants us to feed our young ones the physical, emotional and spiritual food vital to life. Studies have revealed that "African" youth who are breastfed and carried about on the mother's back as she goes about through the day are among the youth with the highest intelligence levels in the world.Kabongo, a Kikiyu chief in Africa, spoke these beautiful words about his mother when he was eighty years old: "My early years are connected in my mind with my mother. At first she was always there; I can remember the comforting feeling of her body as she carried me on her back and the smell of her skin in the hot sun. Everything came from her," as related in Touching the Human Significance of the Skin by Ashley Montagu.
Tuesday, September 8, 2009
Monday, September 7, 2009
The Child in Islam
Each one of you is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock. The ruler is a shepherd of his subjects and is responsible for them; a husband is a guardian of his family and is responsible for it; a lady is a guardian of her husband's house and is responsible for it; and a servant is a guardian of his master's property and is responsible for it.” (Bukhari, 3.592)
A Muslim parent should desire both the good of this world and the good of the hereafter for his or her child. If a choice must be made between these two, the life-to-come is eternal and it is the most important goal for us. In practical terms, this may mean giving up or leaving off something that may be seen fine for the child in terms of this world's life but which will lead him to unhappiness Hereafter.
If we ask Allah for guidance in all our affairs, we will be able to know the difference between what is good in the everlasting perspective and what is good only temporarily and materially.In Islam, we do not segregate children out of the world of adults, for our children are integral parts of our world as adults, both in our families and our community.
Our children are born pure and free of sin, but they lack knowledge and experience.
From the Quran and hadith we know that Allah recognizes and takes into account the complexity of rearing children, and we pray that His leniency is greater for those of us who are rearing our children in this extremely difficult time.
Parenting is not a minor, insignificant matter, but a tremendously important, time consuming task for which there is, justifiably, the promise of great reward. It is hoped that more and more Muslim parents will educate themselves about how children develop, take note of their children's unique personalities and abilities, and try to find the best way to rear them accordingly.
Children are a trust from Allah, both a test and a joy. We will be judged according to our intentions and efforts as parents, and we pray that we may be able to make Allah Taala pleased with us and with them.
Kindness & Affection
In their striving to follow the example of Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him), Muslim parents should be kind and affectionate to their children as is naturally expected. The Prophet (peace be upon him) used to kiss his grandchildren and openly display his great affection for them. For example:Once the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) kissed his grandson al-Hasan (R) while a companion named al-Aqra (R) was sitting beside him. At that, al-Agra(R) said,
"I have ten children and I have never kissed any of them." The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) glanced at him and said, "The one who is not merciful will not be shown mercy." (Bukhari, 8.26)
This is the Prophet (peace be upon him) - tender, tolerant, endlessly loving to the young of his family and to all humanity. This is the holy Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him), whom we love and revere above any other human being and whom we are honoured to take as our example. This is how a Muslim father (or grandfather), husband, and kinsman are supposed to be.May Allah help us to be faithful followers of his blessed example, manifesting love like this in our own lives.
Trust & Test
“And know that your possessions and your children are a test, and that with Allah is a mighty reward. No soul shall be taxed with more than its capacity. No mother shall be injured on account of her child, nor a father on account of his child.” (Quran 8:28; 2:233)
Islam makes it clear that children are, at one and the same time, a blessing, a trust and a test from Allah Taala. That we instinctively love our children and want to protect them and have the best for them, Allah knows. As a rule, children are greatly sough after among Muslims. Many childless couples experience a great feeling of emptiness, and this is a severe test for them.Sometimes we may feel overwhelmed by the seriousness of our responsibility toward our children, especially at this difficult time in history. Allah knows the task He sets before us in each child.
We will surely find within ourselves the patience and love needed; we will find the wisdom, the resources, and all that is necessary to care for this child Allah sent to us. This is part of faith.
Sunday, September 6, 2009
THIS IS GOOD. KEEP IT GOING
And all God's people said -- AMEN!
Spicy Chicken Wings
2 pounds chicken wings
2 tablespoons fresh lemon juice
1 cup all-purpose flour
black pepper to taste
2 teaspoons salt
1 1/2 teaspoons Red chilli powder
1 1/2 teaspoons ground cumin
3/4 teaspoon dried thyme
1 cup plain soda or 7up
1 tablespoon vegetable oil
Vegetable oil for deep-frying
Parsley sprigs for garnish
Cut off the wing tips. Halve wings at joint.Separate the "drumstick," or first-joint, pieces (the thick ones) from the second-joint pieces. Beginning at the narrower end of each "drumstick," with a sharp knife cut the tendons and , holding the exposed end of the bone with a kitchen towel, scrape the skin and meat down the bone as far as possible toward the thicker end to make a plump drumstick shape. Cut through the cartilage at one end of each second-joint piece, separating the bones,scrape the skin and meat down the larger bone to make a plump drumstick shape, and pull out and discard the smaller bone. Arrange all of the "drumsticks" in a shallow dish, sprinkle them with the lemon juice and salt and pepper to taste, and let them marinate, covered and chilled, for 1 hour.Make the batter while the chicken is marinating: In a bowl whisk together the flour, the salt, the red chilly powder, the cumin, the thyme, and the cayenne and make a well in the center. Add the soda and the oil in a stream,and whisk the batter until it is smooth. Let the batter stand at room temperature for 1 hour. Stir the batter before using it. In a large deep fryer or large deep kettle heat 2 inches of the oil to 375 degrees on a deep fat thermometer. Dip the chicken in the batter and fry in oil, 5 pieces at a time, turning it, for 3 minutes, or until it is cooked through and golden. Transfer the chicken with a slotted spoon as it is fried to paper towels to drain and make sure the oil returns to 375 degrees before adding each new batch. Sprinkle the drumsticks with salt to taste, arrange them on a platter, and garnish the platter with the parsley sprigs
Spicy Roasted Potatoes recipe - 177 calories
2 large potatoes, peeled and cut in 1 inch pieces
1 tablespoon Dijon mustard
1 clove garlic, minced
1 tablespoon vegetable oil
1/4 teaspoon paprika
1 teaspoon dried tarragon
salt, to taste
1. Combine the oil, mustard, garlic, paprika, tarragon and pepper flakes.
2. Wash the potato pieces and pat dry with paper towels.
3. Add the potatoes to the spice mixture and toss to coat well.
4. Grease a baking sheet very lightly.
5. Add the potatoes in a single layer.
6. Bake in a preheated 350 degrees F oven for about 35 minutes (or until the potatoes are tender).
7. Sprinkle with salt to taste and serve.
Nutritional information for one serving:
Calories from fat: 33
Total fat: 3.7g
Total carbs: 33.1g
WW points: 3
Thursday, September 3, 2009
O Allah! I entrust You with what I
ma qara'tu wama hafaz-tu.
have read and I have studied.
Faradduhu 'allaya inda
(O Allah!) Bring it back to me when
I am in need of it.
Innaka 'ala ma-tasha'-u
(O Allah!) You do whatever You wish,
qadeer wa anta hasbeeya
and You are my Availer and
wa na'mal wakeel.
Protector and the best of aid.
In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.
O Allah! Make useful for me what You
taught me and teach me knowledge
maa yanfa' unii.
that will be useful to me.
Allahumma inii as'aluka
O Allah! I ask You for the understanding
fahmal-nabiyyen wa hifthal
of the prophets and the memory of the
messengers, and those nearest to You.
Allahumma ijal leesanee
O Allah! Make my tongue full of
'amiran bi thikrika wa
Your remembrance, and my heart with
qalbi bi khashyatika.
consciousness of You.
Innaka 'ala ma-tasha'-u
(O Allah!) You do whatever You wish,
qadeer wa anta hasbun-allahu
and You are my Availer and
wa na'mal wakeel.
Protector and the best of aid.
Wednesday, September 2, 2009
In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.
1. --Our Knowledge-- Wasted by not taking action with it.
2. --Our Actions-- Wasted by committing them with out sincerity.
3. --Our Wealth-- Wasted by using on things that will not bring us ajr. We waste our money, our status, our authority, on things which have no benefit in this life or in akhirah.
4. --Our Hearts-- Wasted because they are empty from the love of Allah, and the feeling of longing to go to Him, and a feeling of peace and contentment. In it's place, our hearts are filled with something or someone else.
5. --Our Bodies-- Wasted because we don't use them in ibadah and service of Allah
6. --Our Love-- Our emotional love is misdirected, not towards Allah, but towards something/someone else.
7. --Our Time-- Wasted, not used properly, to compensate for that which has passed, by doing what is righteous to make up for past deeds
8. --Our Intellect-- Wasted on things that are not beneficial, that are detremental to society and the individual, not in contemplation or reflection.
9. --Our Service-- Wasted in service of someone who will not bring us closer to Allah, or benefit in dunyaa
10. --Our Dhikr-- Wasted, because it does not effect us or our hearts.